The Word "Promiscuous" Shouldn't exist and Here is Why.

If we think about it, we’ll see that People are not promiscuous, they only have sex. And there’s nothing wrong with sex, just like there’s nothing wrong with eating when you are hungry.

People have different degrees of hunger for sex. Some people have higher libidos and others have lower libidos. Why are people (read as women) shamed for having sex?

The whole idea of promiscuity is sexist even, because why do we see a woman when we hear the word "promiscuous"?

Why does nobody say men are promiscuous?

Why do we understand that men enjoy sex and that it's okay to have sex as often as they like and with as many women as they want, but yet, acknowledging the same for women is a problem?

Why is it hard for people to see that women love and enjoy sex too and that we can have sex with as many people as we want to?

Why do we only remember the word "promiscuous" when women are expressing sexual needs and are fulfilling those needs?

Why do we tell women that having sex with different men makes them "promiscuous"?

What is promiscuity?

The fact that I as a living human being enjoy the pleasure that my genitals give me?
Is that what you call bad? Is that what makes you angry? Is that a problem for you?

Shouldn't women have sexual freedom? Are we not human beings? Are women not living things who feel things? Don't we have or feel sexual desires? Why is it okay for us to feel everything but not anger, ambition and eroticism?

Why is everyone focused on making women ignore and stifle their sexual needs?

Why is the world focused on telling women that having sex with men makes them worthless, valueless and promiscuous?

Maybe women should even have sex with other women then. Since men are so inferior that having sex with them makes us worthless.

Or are men scared of women wanting and having sex like they do? Why are they scared?

Religions and traditions of the world have all devised means and reasons to punish women for doing something basic as having sex.

These religions and traditions have all worked together to:

1. Prevent women from having sex.

The no sex until marriage theory isn't a flex. It's one of the means to keep women's sexuality subdued until she is a man's property and her body becomes his, then he can rape her, use her body for his pleasure and use her body to have children who bear his name.

It's no surprise why the orgasm gap exists.

Men are taught that women's bodies exist for them. For their pleasure, that women are a ground to conquer instead of teaching them that women are humans and sex is an activity shared between parties, basically for pleasure.

2. Prevent women from enjoying sex.

Because why on earth was FGM a thing and still is a thing? Why are religions and traditions hell-bent on cutting off women's clitoris? And then they even tell you that women whose clitoris aren't cut off would become promiscuous.

The clitoris, a natural part of the female sexual organ, exists solely for women's pleasure. It's got no other function but to make women moan, scream, and hold tight to the sheets in the ecstasy of orgasm.

That is the same clitoris that has been cut off for thousands of years, to prevent women from enjoying sex. Because in a patriarchal women where women shouldn't even be having sex, the ones who enjoy sex whether married or not are called promiscuous, spoilt, rotten and prostitutes, even by their own husbands.

I think that women who unashamedly break free from the sexual guilt and expectations that society imposes upon women become powerful.

3. Punish women for having agency over their bodies and having sex.

Have you noticed how religion and tradition often disagree until it comes to oppressing women and trying to say what women should or should not do with their bodies?

A man who sleeps around and has 100 body counts is considered a man of games, a man who knows what he wants and goes for it, nobody is going to backlash men for having sex a million times, instead, they'll praise him for it.

Men who haven't had sex are sometimes shamed and called names but women who haven't had sex are praised.

Flip the table and you'll see how women are punished for doing something so basic as having sex. First, we are called prostitutes, then they say we are promiscuous, then, they say we are worthless and valueless as if we are commodities which reduce in value and not humans whose value and worth are a constant.

They tell women that our bodies are properties, gifts, men properties and we should only give to the man who pays the price for us...thereby, commodifyng us and making us properties.

On the other side, women grow up thinking that sex for them should mean giving something to men. Men grow up thinking that sex is them taking away something from women

Promiscuity is a social construct. It doesn’t exist beyond society’s bias against women. It is a word that encapsulates shame. A word used to shame women for simply existing.

As a woman,

you can't afford to live your life ashamed of wanting or having sex. It's nothing to be ashamed of. It's nothing to feel bad about.

Breaking away from purity culture and the culture of shame that teaches you to stifle and repress your natural sexual desires should be every woman's goal.

You don't have to pretend that you are not a sexual being. You don't have to pretend that suppressing your desire to be touched and given pleasure is something good.

We are sexual beings and shouldn't be shamed for simply existing. We shouldn't be shamed for touching our bodies and for wanting other people to touch us. Sex is natural, not evil, not a bad act, not a bad trait, not anything bad.

And, having agency as the human being that we are, we have every right to have sex with as many men as we want, as long it's consensual. We don't have to have sex with only the person whom society considers our owners. We can fuck other women and we can have sex with our own selves.