The Lies about gender-based strength and how it fuels Transphobia.

People really think women are weak and that men are stronger than women.

That's the basis for transphobia but that belief in itself is false. Men are not physically stronger than women.

Strength is not gender based.

The only reason why "men are physically stronger than women" is this:

Boys and girls are raised differently. Boys are told to be strong, given "hard" tasks to do. They are allowed to climb trees and do works that adults believe are "hard" for women.

My mother is a very strong woman. She told us how she used beat boys in her primary school days, she'd beat them so bad that the parents of the boy will come to her family house to report to her parents.

She told us that even as strong as she was, she had to hide when climbing trees or doing those tasks that are traditionally meant for boys because her parents would should on her "you are girl, you shouldn't do that".

"Leave that place, don't you know you are a girl".

"Don't do it, you are a girl".

And this is the same in every family. Those tasks that require much strength and helps in muscle building was left for boys.... Of course we know that those tasks are not every day tasks, unlike domestic chores that were left for girls.

We raise girls to be soft and women who are naturally muscular are even shamed for it. We raise girls to be timid, with low self esteem, to not challenge boys or do what boys do. To be quiet.

We raise boys to be loud, intimidating, to have low self esteem too which they potray as dominance and through bullying.

What happens is this, in raising boys to go out and explore and do those tasks, boys get to build their muscles and physical strength and girls don't get to build physical strength.

So we come up with "boys are naturally stronger than girls" and that's a lie. It's not nature, it's the way we raise children differently.

Have you wondered why effeminate boys are hated on? These boys often want to be soft and not do those hard tasks so they are shamed because "they are like girls."

In the movie Dangal, we saw how those girls where able to beat boys. They only have to have the same amount of training, skills, and confidence that boys are raised with, their father gave them that, raised them not like girls to be taught domestic chores and married off at teenage hood, but as boys that were given the opportunity to build muscles and face hard tasks.

I saw a BBC pidgin video of a 12 years old boxer girl in Lagos, she said she has never lost any match and it's often boys who are her opponents. She beats them and she wins all her matches.

If we raise boys and girls the same way, you will see how much physical strength women have, you'll also see how much emotional strength men are capable of.

I read an article about the origin of gendered sports. In the beginning it was only men who were allowed in sports, there were no women in sports, and then women began to rebel and they joined men, they all ran together and fought together, there was no separation until women began winning, men started complaining that women wanted to take over their sports and spaces and hardwork.

Just the same complaints that transphobic people are complaining today.

And then, sports became gendered, there now became men's sports and women's sports.... which is Patriachal by the way because gender is one the strong pillars of patriachy.

And we cannot end patriachy if we don't end gender.

We shoot ourselves in the foot when we keep calling for separation of transgender people in sports.

Gendered sports is already a disadvantage. Strength does not have gender.

There are many women who are stronger than men, and there are many men who are physically weak.

I mean, on Facebook we saw videos of wives who turned around and beat their husbands blue and black after the men first wanted to beat them. Yet you still think that women are soft breads or weak humans that needs to be saved.

Even amongst men, some men are stronger than other men, some men can lift a bag of cement without any hassle, some will take 10 minutes of bone stretching to finally lift it, and some will not even dare to lift because they don't have the strength.... BTW, my mum used to lift many bags of cements each day and she carried them on her head when need be, that was some years ago when she joined my father in his cement business, they couldn't afford to pay people to do the job so they both did it until they were able to pay people to do that.

Will you also say that because some men are weaker then the sports should be divided ? So that at least we can have "strong men category and weak men category".?

Women are not weak. Men are not stronger than us. Strength is not gender based. Gender is a patriachal structure.

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